I was convinced that my relationship with food would always be strained, forceful, and obsessive. I thought that while other “normal” eaters could listen to their cravings and eat what they wanted out of the restaurant menu, I was doomed for life.
I even thought I was a food addict and went to overeaters anonymous for a while. I would hear others saying that their hunger was like a tiger that needed to “get out of the cage” three times a day…So I would need to stick to my food plan and avoid my “bad” foods to prevent binges.
Obviously I couldn’t make it even 4 days sticking to a food plan, then I would binge.
I guess the “lion” was out of the cage…
But, what if I was just responding to restriction?
What if there was no addiction, no “tiger” to walk out of the cage?
Today, food is a non issue in my life. I think about it when I’m hungry. I enjoy it. I can have chips, snacks, a chocolate bar if I feel like it, without wanting to finish them all. True story.
I’ve helped others get here too.
“Normal” eating is supposed to be easy. if you are over-thinking your food choices, if you are still controlling your food, there might be some mind-shifts we need to get clear on.
Eating with ease feels like second nature these days. But it takes practice to break old diet-mentality thoughts and the habits that keep us stuck in the diet-binge cycle, food obsessing, and overeating.
“Normal”eaters overeat sometimes. They eat emotionally sometimes. They eat while they are walking to the bus stop, and don’t always eat “mindfully.”
“Normal” eaters don’t count calories and sometimes they forget to eat for a while, until their hunger signals let them know that they need to out food in their mouth ASAP.
The difference between “normal” eaters and people who still have diet-mentality thoughts or what I call “toxic diet chatter,” is that normal eaters do not attach judgements or morality to any of these behaviors. Basically, they just don’t care.
They don’t feel horrible or like they blew it if they overeat. They don’t attach guilt and shame if they eat when they aren’t hungry.
This summarizes, pretty much, how I eat today.
Obviously it wasn’t always like this. in the past, eating a few chips would drive me into a full blown binge.
Today, normal eating is eating differently every day. It is not having “good” or “bad” foods. I gravitate toward wholesome foods, yet don’t ever deny myself treats or any sort of food (unless I get busy with life and forget to eat them!).
I don’t force myself to eat “healthy” foods, yet never seem to fight cravings for the “bad” stuff anymore.
Food is awesome and all, but it’s just food. It’s just ONE of the many fun things in life I get to try out.
Regarding food, my life feels “healthy” (mainly because I feel SANE again) balanced, and happy.
All it took was the willingness to go beyond the usual diet and restriction cycle, and making the internal shifts that got me to heal my relationship to food.
So what does it take to make food lose power over you?
I would love to give you a roadmap with guidance from someone who was there and made it to the other side. Specially if whatever you are doing isn’t working for you, or if you are still over-eating, eating emotionally, or obsessing about food 24/7.
If you want to book a free consultation with me, get on my calendar here. I would love to connect!
Until next time!
PS: I was recently featured in Recovery Warriors, UpJourney, Elite Daily and Bustle and I am trying to change the conversation around binge eating and how to achieve recovery from it by giving others a roadmap to success. I use intuitive eating principles, science, and feminist empowerment tools. If you are ready to chat, get on my calendar here.